whose loss is it, anyway?

“Your loss” seems to be a phrase I hear a lot these days. But what is the point of saying that its my loss, wouldn’t you rather I feel it and regret it? It’s like a child saying, “Fine, I didn’t want to play with you either.” When you know they did.

Here’s one example of the “your loss” line I got this summer.

So I’ve known this guy since mid highschool. I thought we were just friends, like all girls say about guys they aren’t into, and we were. I wasn’t attracted to him that way; my bad if I cant control that. This summer I’ve only seen him twice.

When we hung out it would be normal but he would always manage to slip sexuallness into it. Him being interested in me was the furthest from my mind, although we all know men. The next day he starts sending me these text messages

“Am I awesome enough to be your first full black guy?” and “are you attracted to me?”
after I say no, sorry but no I’m not, he asks
“you don’t feel something between us?”
Ok. Big red flag that this is getting out of control because in no way am I condoning this or leading him on. I am fed up at these types of situations, so I say…excuse my foul language but
“We aren’t going to f***, get over it”
Enough already. I’m sure most people would agree that if we felt something with the opposite sex, we would act on it, at least a little. I am not shy and neither are most girls who want a guy.
Then out comes the little insecure child, He says to me

“ur loss…your cute but not that cute, sorry”
The conversation is over and I think the carefree friendship is too. Is it really my loss? I haven’t lost anything so much as been whip lashed by this conversation. I didn’t get embarrassed but I would assume he did. That episode was sooo unsexy and unappealing not only because of the phrase “ur loss” but also because he wasn’t confident enough to call me, or ask me out. He could only send a stupid text. What a baby.